What if your breaking point was actually your breakthrough?
Becoming UnDone is a powerful exploration of what happens when high achievers come face-to-face with failure, fear, and identity crisis, and how those moments can spark lasting transformation. Through raw personal stories and deep insights drawn from years of coaching, teaching, and podcasting high performers, Dr. Toby Brooks flips the script on success: It’s not about holding it all together. It’s about learning what to let fall apart.
This isn’t a book about bouncing back. It’s about building forward.
Becoming UnDone is the guidebook I wish I had when I was trying to make sense of my own unraveling.
Learn to recognize those overwhelming “purpose storm” moments as powerful signals pointing you toward deeper alignment, not collapse.
Break free from the pressure to prove yourself and let go of the lie that your worth is tied to your title, achievements, or output.
Embrace the uncomfortable space between who you were and who you’re becoming, and discover the strength hiding in the unraveling.
Trade reactive striving for intentional living that aligns with your deepest values and leads to meaningful, lasting change.
Cultivate habits, relationships, and a mindset that fuel authentic growth, especially when the world around you feels unstable.
Discover why courage beats confidence, and how to take bold action when you feel the least ready.
Navigate setbacks with honesty and grace, using failure as a foundation for your most powerful reinvention.
Whether you’re in the middle of your own “undone” moment or trying to support someone who is, this book will show you how falling apart can actually be the start of falling into place.
Becoming UnDone is the latest evolution in Dr. Toby Brooks’ decades-long career as a professor, performance scientist, coach, and speaker. With over 20 publications, six industry certifications authored or co-authored, and multiple university-level textbooks and journal articles, Toby is a trusted voice in sports performance, education, and human development.
He is the host of the Becoming UnDone® podcast with 160+ episodes featuring world-class guests who have navigated their own reinventions—from athletes and artists to executives and entrepreneurs.
I found Becoming Undone through social media.
Toby does a great job of navigating his guests through the triumphs of their lives. It allows a story to be told, and a picture to be painted for the audience to enjoy and learn from. I love how each episode has hidden gems for the listener to fully take in, from the masterful insight shared by he and his guests. Above anything else, Becoming Undone is a beacon of hope for me done with pure intentions, and that’s what keeps me coming back!
Assistant Athletic Trainer
Co-Captain, 1998 Arizona Football (Holiday Bowl Champions and most successful team in school history), Assistant Chief, Tucson Fire Department
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I came across the series, Life, Lessons, and the Legacy of Dick Tomey on Facebook and it is a near and dear topic. When Toby and I were able to collaborate on contributing to the series, I couldn’t wait. Toby’s episode and how he was able to dig deep on Coach Tomey’s impact was fantastic to talk about and share with others.
Toby creates the kind of space every guest hopes for—thoughtful questions, genuine curiosity, and a conversation that feels real. If you want stories of resilience told with heart, this is the podcast.
As a guest, I felt completely at ease. Toby listens deeply and makes the conversation flow naturally, which is rare. If you’re invited on this show, take it—you’ll walk away grateful you did.
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